7 Amazing Steps to Win Your Ex Back

At times, a small fight could be taken too seriously and end up with a breakup. After the so-called breakup, you tried seeing other people, and have come to a stage where you would finally realize that nothing is going to work and you made a huge mistake by letting him/her go.

Well, you are not the only one like this in the whole world. There are many people who broke up with their girlfriends or boyfriends and wondering how to get back with them.


So, this post is exclusively for those who have no idea and find tips to get back with ex. It is never too late to rekindle the relationship with your ex. But in the process of getting back with him/her, there are certain dos and don’ts which everyone needs to follow otherwise you may end up breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend again. So here are our top best steps for people who are trying to win their ex back.

Step 1 -- Start with a text

At times, absence makes your heart grow fonder and at other times, it makes you too desperate and seeks out other people. End of the story never starts your rebound relationship with a call. First, try sending a simple “Hi” or “Hello” text. And again, be careful if you are sending anything else other than hi or hello because texts can be deceptive and will make your ex-think that you are looking for a booty call.


Think about some beautiful memories that shared with your ex and try to make a conversation. For example, text him/her by saying “I was listening to music and heard that our favorite song. Felt nostalgic. I miss those days.” In case, she replies, then you can continue the conversation by asking him/her how they are doing, etc. If they respond the other way, then jump to step 2.

Step 2 -- Take it slow

You already once were close to him/her but it doesn’t mean that you will get to talk or do whatever you can. First, propose getting together. And getting together doesn’t mean moving in together. It means you just get back with your ex. Because, at the end of the day, they shouldn’t feel like you apologized after ages out of nowhere and was proposing to moving back in. Instead, they should feel secure, safe, and protected. For that, you need to take things slow and stop being pushy about getting together instantly.

Step 3 -- Call them, maybe

If everything is going great then try suggesting a casual date by calling them not over a text. And of course, no emails. Let them hear your voice and feel them that you are putting some serious efforts on getting back with them. Find a feel good movie, art exhibition, etc. or anything that makes her/him excited about going out with you.

Such moments will your ex a chance to rethink about the relationship in a relaxed environment without any push. But remember one thing, your ex coming out with you on a casual date is not a sign of getting back with you. It only means that they are just started or about to start reconsidering your relationship. Even though if your ex lets you down, give them some space and time. Never ever beg, plead, or push them to make an instant decision. If it is meant to happen, then sooner or later they will come around. There is no point in pushing them, it only makes the situation even worse.

Step 4 -- Let them know how much you miss him/her

If your ex accepts to go out with you on a normal date, ease in. Ask him/her how their work is going and what they are up to. It gives you some information to talk with them and keep the conversation on. Then, if your evening or lunch is going well and he/she looks like to be warming up then say that you want him/her back in your life. Of course, there are chances for you to get a second chance but don’t start the conversation all of a sudden or as soon as they arrive. Also, you don’t need to talk every little thing that went wrong in your relationship. You know, your ex knows and that is enough so keep the conversation light and simple.

Step 5 -- Admit your mistakes

If she/he seem to open the conversation then step up and talk. Admit your mistakes and apologize. If you really did something so hurtful then there is nothing wrong in making an apology whether or not they come back. It is wise to see a therapist to clear out what you did and why, and also how to solve the problems in future. Whether they like to admit or acknowledge, you first need to take accountability for what you did. In relationships, pride never works.

Step 6 -- Stop digging the past

Once you admit your mistakes, look ahead and see what’s in the future. Don’t dig things that you think went wrong in the relationship or your ex. Focus on positive things that brought you both together in the first place. Positive qualities like good sense of humor, braveness, etc. that gave you a positive side and made you fell in love with him/her.

Step 7 -- Utilize the friend group

Even though you are looking for a new start, you should still tap back into those beautiful feelings. A simple way to bring back those wonderful times is to meet up in a good and known environment such as a day out with your common friends. Just ensure that you can easily break the ice and start the conversation by telling stories, jokes, and laugh together. It will give them a comfortable feeling and also fun at the same time.

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